Long distance relationships are not easier but considering the advantages that we have nowadays with the internet and faster shipping, it is possible to keep a long distance relationship romantic and going strong. Being separated from someone that you love is never easy emotionally and it certainly is not desirable. However, you will learn a lot and put your relationship through one of the toughest tests that there are. If you find yourself having a lot of trouble keeping your relationship strong while at a difference, then you may find the following advice helpful in your pursuit for love.
Breaking Up or Going the Distance
Let’s start with the worst case scenario. You may be finding it difficult to maintain your relationship because the relationship is not worth maintaining. Many people do not want to find themselves alone. They begin to date someone who they get along with and they care deeply about them but there really isn’t anything that really connects the two of you. However, this person fulfills your need of not wanting to be alone. When distance separates you, you realize that you will have to be physically alone regardless and that you do not want to spend your effort on someone that you really do not want to. In this case you can break up without too much stress nor heartbreak.
In a long distance relationship, you must have the will, desire and passion to keep going. If there is no effort made on either part than the relationship is doomed to fail. If you are in a fantastic relationship with someone that you love and you are separated along your happy path, you can find some satisfaction in pursuing a long distance relationship that can create an even stronger bond between you and your partner.
Staying Connected
When you first become separated communication is key. You need to maintain contact in order to keep the emotional aspect of your relationship intact. The best way to stay in touch is through some sort of video chatting such as Skype. This way you can see the person you love everyday even if it is through the use of a computer. At first it will be difficult to see your partner in this way but you will slowly become accustomed to spending long hours in front of your computer. Phone calls are the next best thing and you can always mix it up a bit. Another great communication combo is seeing your partner with video but communicating through instant messages. This way you can see the emotion in their face and anticipate their next response.
The Mindset of a Long Distance Relationship Partner
Some things to keep in mind to make the distance easier is to realize that this is just one chapter in your life. By the time you next get to see one another, the weeks and months that have passed will seem insignificant. The only important matter in your mind is seeing the person you love once again. Truly understanding the distance helps to understand your situation. You can take this time to go back to activities that you may have had to give up because of time constraints. You are able to focus on other important aspects of your life which will help to make the time go faster. Sitting in front of the phone or computer will make the time go by excruciatingly slowly and this could lead to a break up.
You will also have to create a support system. In my experience, there are very few days where both partners are really happy about their situation. Some days are more difficult than others. When one of those days comes upon your partner, you have to reassure him or her that time will pass and that you will be reunited soon. It is hard to comfort your significant other at a distance but you can take this time to learn how to communicate on a pure emotional level. There aren’t any hugs and kisses to cover up problems. You will have to use good ole communication to solve problems and reassure your partner.
How Long is Too Long?
The separation time between two partners varies. The strongest long distance relationships are those that are able to see each other more frequently. The maximum time that you should spend apart is anywhere from 3 to 4 months. More than that can put your relationship in danger of losing faith and connection to the person. Is it possible? Of course. There are partners that have not seen each other for more than a year but they still conduct a fulfilling relationship because they have a system that is unique to them. Knowing when you are going to see your partner again is very helpful in making it through the darker days. When the date is open ended, this can put more stress on the relationship.
Create an Unique Presence in Your Partner’s Life
You cannot physically be present but that does not mean that you cannot create a whimsical romance from a distance. It is important to maintain some sort of physical presence in your partner’s life. One of the best ways to do this is to send small care packages. Some partners alternate weeks while others send packages and letters whenever they feel the need to. These gifts can vary from silly reminders to meaningful gifts. Sometimes a courting letter can melt your partner’s heart and make him/her fall more hopelessly in love with you. Remember important dates such as monthly anniversaries and birthdays. Little reminders in the mail can make a huge difference in your long distance relationship to feel connected.
Long distance relationships take patience and creativity. Take advantage of what you can to make your loved one’s life special while you are apart. There are many ways to make your partner feel strong even if you are gone. If you put effort into the relationship, you will receive a special relationship that was well worth the wait.
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